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Do The Police Have A Right To Lie To You? Shouldn’t you be able to trust the man supposed to keep you safe and protect you?

March 1, 2015

While driving to dinner recently feeling loving and happy, we chatted about the wonderful dinner we expected to have and what we might chose to eat.

We had just turned into an Industrial Park and passed a Fairfield police patrol car. Suddenly the cruiser turned around and pulled us over.

The officer approached the car and asked if we knew why we were pulled over and my husband asked if we might have been going faster than the posted limit (he truly was not sure as it is an industrial park and there was no speed limit sign)? The officer responded “I clocked you at 42 in a 25” very sternly. I came closer to the window and explained “we were going out to dinner and had been happily chatting, not intentionally speeding, certainly not in a hurry and asked for leniency.”

The officer, once again very sternly replied, “I clocked you on radar and since all my actions are recorded I am unable to do that – I HAVE to give you a ticket.” As it turns out, a police officer friend of mine confirmed that was NOT TRUE.  A police officer’s radar does not dictate his actions unless he determines action is required!

Now, we will concede we exceeded the speed limit BUT it was NOT intentional and it was in an industrial park at 6:30 PM where one would never expect the speed limit to be 25 with no traffic.  We also realize ignorance is not an excuse, but once the officer saw hubby had no tickets, warnings, or accidents in the last 30 years – he could have provided the requested leniency for “accidentally” speeding.

This is especially disconcerting when someone responds to your story and relays a tale about the time they got pulled over for speeding and their tags were expired but the officer let them go with a “promise” they would get their tags renewed the next day – no ticket – no warning  – and all it took was a promise.

Does anyone else see something wrong with this picture?

I truly believe a police officer’s responsibilities are to provide safety to all people in his jurisdiction, stop real criminals, fight the drug war, prevent crime, ticket blatant unsafe drivers, and protect and serve the innocent – not tell lies to the people in the township who pay his salary, namely you and me.


Breast Cancer Awareness Camaraderie

November 23, 2009

The employees at the Providence St. Vincent Hospital in Portland Oregon got together and made the “Pink Glove Dance Video” to promote breast cancer awareness.  It’s heartwarming and affirming – Please take 3 minutes out of your day to watch! When you are done, go to where you can click to give a woman a free mammogram – it costs you nothing!


The Power of Kindness

November 11, 2009


Voted Best Spiritual Book of 2007 by S & P

Book Review
By Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat

The Power of Kindness

The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life
Piero Ferrucci
Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin 10/07 Paperback $12.00
ISBN: 9781585425884

Piero Ferrucci is a psychotherapist and philosopher who was a student and collaborator with Roberto Assagioli, the founder of psychosynthesis. In this polished and pensive tome, he says that we are going through “an Ice Age of the Heart” where people are often chilly and indifferent to each other. The reliance on technology, such as cell phones and email, to keep in touch with others instead of face-to-face encounters is a sign of this “global cooling.” The single-minded pursuit of money and power knocks aside the values that have animated religions for years. Kindness is the one trait that can save us. He quotes the Dalai Lama:

“I believe that if we stop to think, it is clear that our very survival, even today, depends upon the acts and kindness of so many people. Right from the moment of our birth, we are under the care and kindness of our parents; later in life, when facing the sufferings of disease and old age, we are again dependent on the kindness of others.”

Ferrucci notes that being kind is a way of life that can bring happiness to others as well as to those who practice it:

“To receive kindness does us good. Think of a time someone has been kind to you, in a big or a small way: A passerby gave your directions to reach the station or a stranger threw herself in a river to save you from drowning. What effect did it have on you? Probably a beneficial one, because if someone helps us when we need it, we feel relief. And everyone likes to be heard, treated with warmth and friendliness, understood, and nourished.

“Something similar happens on the other side of the equation: Giving kindness does us as much good as receiving it. . . .  The true benefit of kindness is being kind. Perhaps more than any other factor, kindness gives meaning and value to our life, raises us above our troubles and our battles, and makes us feel good about ourselves.”

Ferrucci distinguishes this virtue from self-interested politeness, calculated generosity, superficial etiquette, and kindness against one’s will. In eighteen well-designed and thought-out chapters, he presents various facets of this quality including honesty, forgiveness, mindfulness, empathy, generosity, gratitude, service and joy. Along the way, he offers many insights into human nature and some practice suggestions. Here is one of them:

“Try this experiment. Start with an ordinary situation such as riding in a taxi, buying paper at a stationary shop, or sitting in the train. Then try exchanging a few words with the taxi driver, making eye contact with the salesperson, striking up a conversation with someone on the train. For some of us, that happens spontaneously; others have to do it deliberately. Be fully present in this brief contact, and expect the other to be so as well. Suddenly a change occurs: Something becomes unblocked and energy circulates. It might not be an encounter of two souls. But it surely will be an exchange of vital energy between two people.”

This paperback is a rich and rounded resource that explores the multidimensional powers of kindness as a character trait that can do wonders for civilization if it is practiced by more people every day.

The following is a quote that I sent to myself to remember to look the book up – it is with regret I do not remember the author:

The Power of Kindness: The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life” by Piero Ferrucci is a gentle reminder of how kindness comes and can be given in many forms. Separate chapters are devoted to honesty, warmth, forgiveness, contact, sense of belonging, trust, mindfulness, empathy, humility, patience, generosity, respect, flexibility, memory, loyalty, gratitude, service, and joy. An example he gives is a photographer who goes to an orphanage to take pictures of the children because a fine photograph makes adoption more likely.
The author, a follower of Roberto Assagioli, who developed psychosynthesis, believes “Kindness and the goodwill of many is a resource, an energy on par with oil, water, wind, nuclear, and solar energy. It would be immensely useful (this is already happening) to pay more attention to it, find ways of evoking it, and harnessing it, organize training courses for it, teach it in schools, publicize it, use it in ads, turn it into a fashion.”

I wholeheartedly agree!  Don’t you?  Then pay some kindness forward today.  Let’s start a trend.



November 9, 2009

A must see video starring TJ Thyne wherein we are shown the overpowering importance of a smile and how we all need to be validated.
Have you ever walked down the street and smiled at a stranger? Did they smile back? Did they look away? Did they look happy or sad? How did either of these actions make you feel?
I always try to smile rather than frown. According to Google, it takes 33 facial muscles to frown and 13 facial muscles to smile which should equate to less wrinkles as we age. That factor notwithstanding, I choose to smile rather than frown even in the face of true adversity. That’s not to say that I don’t have my sad moments. But, I don’t let those moments take me over and neither should you!
So watch this video and remember you have the power to validate someone – to make them smile and make them feel good about themselves. You can even do this for yourself. To smile or not to smile is a choice. Choose wisely!

A Call To Action – You Are Needed Now!

November 9, 2009

I read a story today at Career Rocketeer that you’ll want to read as well. It’s a call to action, whether you’re fully employed, unemployed or know of someone who is unemployed. You’re needed.

Here’s the story…

It’s a story of Kim and Frank. Kim is a pastor at a local church. Frank is one of Kim’s patrons who had been attending Kim’s church for 65 years.

Frank was one of the faithful who attended church almost every Sunday. Just like clockwork, Frank would attend the 9:30 service and sit in the same spot… eight rows back right on the aisle.

For the first fifty years, Frank sat in his spot with his wife, Carol, beside him. Kim could count on looking up and seeing Frank and his wife every Sunday in their spot.

After Carol’s death, Frank continued to come to church and sit in his same spot, eight rows back right on the aisle. Sometimes he was there by himself. Sometimes he was there with his son or daughter. Always, he was there.

Then out of the blue, Kim noticed Frank wasn’t at church on a particular Sunday. Kim didn’t think much of it until the next week when Frank wasn’t there again. In fact, six months went by without Kim seeing Frank in his usual spot, eight rows back right on the aisle.

Kim didn’t know why. Did he go on an extended vacation? Did he change churches? Did he move? Did Frank unexpectedly die and nobody told him?

Finally, curiosity got the best of Kim. He didn’t know Frank’s telephone number, so Kim decided to drive by Frank’s house. He saw the house was mostly dark, but there was a light on in the back of the house.

Kim rang the doorbell, and Frank answered. Frank explained he and his family were struggling both financially and with their health. That’s why he hadn’t been attending church.

Kim asked how he could help Frank. Frank said that the hardships over the past six months had been some of the most difficult of his life. However, as difficult as that was, the most painful thing was that nobody from the church bothered to stop by and check in on him during the past six months. He’s been forgotten, and that was very painful.

As Kim heard this, tears streamed his cheeks (and Frank’s too). Kim realized he failed in his job as a friend.

There are many people in the working world today who have faithfully attended their job for years and years, only to find themselves in the loneliness of the unemployed.

If you know of someone who is unemployed, reach out to them. Take them out to lunch. Treat them to a coffee at Starbucks. Let them know you’re thinking about them in their time of need. Make sure they know that even though they are unemployed, they are still important in your life. Just a small amount of your time will mean tons to them.

And if you’re unemployed, make sure you take the time to reach out to others. If nobody is reaching out to you, reach out to them, no matter how awkward it feels. This is the time for your support group to come through and be there for you.

Don’t wait six months. Don’t wait another day. Do it now!!